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Making hard decisions can bring about a lot of anxiety for many of us, especially when there are many factors that are dependent on the outcome. We can experience so much pressure when trying to make the right choice, especially when those choices impact other areas of our life. Simply just evaluating the different options can bring about confusion, tension, and elevate anxiety. If you are in the process of making a difficult decision, whether big or small, here are things that I have shared with my clients that may help you:
1. Reflect on your core values
Ask yourself "Are any of the choices and possible outcomes in alignment with the values that are important to me?" "Would making this decision be in alignment with who I am at the core?" "How can I honor myself in the decision that I make?"
2. Bring awareness to any thoughts, feelings,& body sensations that arise
This allows us to tune into our intuition and to let it guide us into making decisions.
3. Take on a problem-solving approach, while balancing the emotional and intellectual parts of yourself
Taking on a problem-solving approach can help you step into your intellectual side while weighing out the different options. It is also important to create space for any emotions that may arise for you in the process and know that they are valid.
4. Make a pros and cons list
As simple as it may send, creating a pros and cons list can help you to fully evaluate each option and potential outcome.
5. Allow yourself compassion in knowing that things are not always "black and white"
While pressuring ourselves to make the "right decision," it is important to note that not every choice you make will be clear as day and easy to make. There won't always be a clear answer.
6. Allow yourself to make the "best decision" that you can make in the circumstances you were given
Sometimes the circumstances that you are in aren't the best. The decisions that you will have to make won't always be perfect, and there may be some level of hurt in them. Instead of burdening yourself to make the "right decision," try reframing it into making the "best decision" that you can.